Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Meant to be?

Recently, in the past month or so, I have been blessed with the opportunity to reconnect with several old friends and also reflect on new friendships.  And it's got me thinking, Was I meant to be friends with these people? Did God lead me down this path so I could find them? Would it be different and would I have ever meet them if I had chosen a different way? 
I have said before that I really don't believe in soul mates in the normal sense.  By that I mean, I don't think that everyone has a soul mate that they are supposed to find and fall in love with and live happily ever after.  I just don't.  Really it's because I just don't think it's practical.  How can you guarantee that everyone finds their soul mate?  You can't. So I think it would be a sad world if everyone was going around looking for their soul mate.  I think it's possible to be happy with more than one person. And don't get me wrong, I definitely love the boyfriend I'm with, but what if it didn't work out? I would then be left with thinking he wasn't my soul mate or he was my soul mate and now my life is going to be terrible. Again, not a fun world. 
Now, it's not that I don't believe in soul mates at all, I just believe in them more unconventionally.  I believe there are soul mates and find each other and fall madly in love.  I think everyone knows a couple who was just meant to be together, right?  But what about everyone else?  That's got me thinking.  Maybe soul mates aren't always significant others.  Instead the could be best friends or BFFE-best freaking friends ever or siblings.  
Part of the reason I've been thinking about this is that I feel like I've meet people like this in many parts of my life.  I went to high school where I sometimes felt like I didn't fit in.  I went to one college for two years and then decided that I needed something else and transfered.  And at all places, I meet people that I know are supposed to be in my life.  
For example, at Wartburg, I met Danielle, whom like me decided to transfer and move back to Colorado.  And although we only spent about 12 months together in total, we've still kept in touch over the past two years and over the many miles between us.  So I think it's fate that we both went to a school that wasn't really right for us and managed to become friends.

Example 2.  Two more of my Wartburg friends, Sam and Jena, came to visit me a few weeks ago.  And after not seeing one of them for about a year, and the other one seeing them only once in the last year, it was still just the same as when we were all living together.  There were no awkward moments of not knowing what to say, we just picked up where we left off.  And I loved it.  I miss all of my Res suitemates!

Example 3.  
Since coming to the University of Iowa, I have meet several people I feel like I've known forever, and one in particular is Laura.  I've been thinking about our friendship a lot lately as we have done a lot of things together and talk about our futures of grad schools and such.  I especially thinks it's funny that we've only been friends for about 10 months.  (We knew each other before that, but had never really spent a lot of time together.)  And now we spend huge chunks of time together and I don't know what my life would be like without her, probably not as fun.

So maybe God has just led me down a winding path to make sure I meet this people.  But really, who knows?  I am sure of one thing, I am very grateful that I did find them.  There are many others I haven't mentioned here that also have a space in my heart, but I don't have space on this blog to mention, but you still mean a lot to me.  I look forward to more phone calls and time together and reminiscing. 
My suggestion to you is to call up your soul mates and old friends.  It's not too late to reconnect.  So, what are you waiting for?  It was meant to be after all.

" A friend is one to whom one may pour out all the contents of one's heart, chaff and grain together, knowing that the gentlest of hands will take and sift it, keep what is worth keeping and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away."  - Arabian Proverb
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